How to spot love bombing
Previous PostNext Post RELATIONSHIPS How to Spot Love Bombing Signs to watch out for and why it’s unhealthy Love bombing explained: Love bombing is a manipulation for control and power in a romantic relationship. Signs you may be getting love bombed. The relationship feels like it is moving extremely fast. Is your relationship in its’ early stages yet it is moving at lightning speed? If it is moving so fast that you might be feeling overwhelmed, you could be getting love bombed. Love bombers behave like rescuers. Do they take your side in all of your conflicts? If they may be taking on how you think or how you feel, you may be getting love bombed. The person calls you their partner after knowing you briefly. Does the person call you their partner or their boyfriend or girlfriend after knowing you for a brief amount of time? Are they talking about their future wedding and kids with you? If so, you may be getting love bombed. They over-identify with you. Does the person you are with seem to LOVE everything you love and dislikes everything you dislike? They may even begin to behave in a US versus THEM kind of way. If so, you may be getting love bombed. There’s a lack of consideration for your personal boundaries. Does the person have an excessive need for your attention? If so, you may be getting love bombed. There are grand gestures of affection or extravagant gifts. Does the person you are with buy extravagant gifts. If so, you may be getting love bombed. “Special” gift-giving after knowing you briefly. Does the person you are with early on in the relationship give you a gift that appears to have some kind of sentimental value? Does the gift imply that they know you very intimately when the opposite is true? If so, you may be getting love bombed. Why love bombing is unhealthy Love bombing reinforces low self-esteem and low self-worth. You owe it to yourself to recognize these behaviors when you should encounter them. They keep you reminded of your personal weaknesses. Is there a personal weakness, a problem, or a past action that they keep reminding you of or throwing in your face? A change in how you view yourself + increased dependence on them. If the love bomber can get you to see yourself as less capable, not having as much value or work, and then create your dependence on them, it can become easy to not see yourself clearly and believe that you need them to be in a relationship. All Posts Advice Couples Therapy EMDR Therapy Health & Wellness Holidays Individual Therapy LGBTQ LGBTQ+ Therapy Links Mental Health Moment Services Teen Therapy Teens Therapist Uncategorized Dante Knew He Had to do Something Have You Suddenly Lost Your Confidence? Try These Tips to Regain Your Swagger! 5 Tips for Gift Giving
4 Ways to Spot Toxic Behavior
Previous PostNext Post RELATIONSHIPS How to Spot Toxic Behavior Toxic behavior signs to watch out for and ask yourself the following questions. What is toxic behavior? Toxic people are everywhere and you’re bound to come across them. What you need to ask yourself is, “What is toxic behavior?”. Toxic relationships can develop with someone as close as family or friends, and many people are unaware they are in one. You may be unaware that the way someone treats you is harming your health and happiness. They may even be preventing you from achieving personal progress and living the life you deserve. Gain self-esteem and a new awareness that you deserve better people in your life that actually care about you as a person to become smarter. The health benefits of avoiding toxic relationships could transform your life. What does toxic behavior look like? It’s one thing to know that someone is being toxic. They’re belittling you, lying to your face about something major, or slandering your good name behind your back. It’s another when the toxicity comes from someone you’ve trusted for years. Someone who, at first glance, seems okay. But there are certain tell-tale signs you can look out for to determine if that person is poisonous. How do you spot toxic behavior? Here are 4 ways to spot toxic behavior from a mile away. 4 Signs of Toxic Behavior Can they be happy for other people? A person who cannot be happy for anybody else is usually very unhappy with themselves. They will visit that on you as well. Do they enjoy putting others down? Do they get a rise out of gossiping, criticizing, or putting other people down? How do they treat people they do not have to win over? What is your observation of how this person treats other people? Are they only kind to people that provide them some benefit, above them on the food chain, people who can do them a favor? If a person treats other people as if they are beneath them or unkind because they are just a …or only a … How they treat people can be illuminating. Do all of their stories feature them as the hero and everybody else as the villain? Pay close attention to the stories they tell. Identifying toxic behavior is important Toxic behavior makes your life and the lives of those around you more difficult. It can scatter your focus, drive you crazy and sap your energy. Because toxic people don’t want to make anything better, they are hard to deal with. If you find yourself in a work or romantic relationship with someone you may think is toxic and need guidance; reach out and make an appointment. All Posts Advice Couples Therapy EMDR Therapy Health & Wellness Holidays Individual Therapy LGBTQ LGBTQ+ Therapy Links Mental Health Moment Services Teen Therapy Teens Therapist Uncategorized Dante Knew He Had to do Something Have You Suddenly Lost Your Confidence? Try These Tips to Regain Your Swagger! 5 Tips for Gift Giving