Let’s take purchases as an example. Have you ever hid your purchases, snuck in bags, or surprised your partner with a huge purchase on the joint credit card?
As a concerned partner, you may ask your honest partner who practices honesty a question like,
“Hey, I noticed this charge on a credit card statement. What’s up with that? What is this?”
An honest partner desiring to work this situation out might say,
“Listen, I went out, and I bought these things, and I know we normally talk about these purchases. I’m sorry I went against our rules.”
When you are with a transparent partner practicing transparency, your partner may come to you saying,
“Listen, I made a huge purchase today. We normally talk about it. I realize it violates what we agreed upon. I want to work it out, move forward, and make sure we have trust.”